Should We Get Married?

What Does Your Relationship Need?

Be sure to tell me what your relationship needs by taking my short three question survey. 

Just click on this Tell Me What You Want link or you can use the Tell Me What You Want link on the left to let me know what your relationship needs.

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Questions to Ask While Dating

It is no easy task to know what questions to ask while dating. It is difficult to decide what is okay to ask, if you’re being too nosy or you don’t really want to know the truth.

Dr. Phil, this past week addressed this very concern when he introduced his version of three minute dating. He refers to this technique to help singles know what questions to ask while dating as “infrared dating” and discusses it in his new book, Love Smart: Find the One You Want-Fix the One You Got.

Dr. Phil empowers singles with several tactics to start substantive conversations and learn how to observe. All this allows singles to “get the real scoop” on the relationships possibilities whether you are just starting to date or considering if you should get married.

Should I Get Married?

The best time to decide "should I get married?" is at the wedding altar before you make a legal commitment.

Can ex-lovers be just friends?

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Can ex-lovers be just friends?

I have a current girlfriend of four years.  We live in a relatively small rural community. We love each other and want a future together. Her last boyfriend still lives locally and has a current girlfriend of few years.

My girlfriend and her ex-boyfriend were just friends as young teenagers but began a relationship upon her return to the area after a marriage breakup.  She decided to break off the relationship after 4-5 years when she met me.  He initially clumsily attempted to salvage their relationship when he knew I was part of her life.  She told him clearly that I was the one in her life now. They have had only shallow or minimal contact in the last 4 years or so saying hello, how are the children? How's work going? etc…  Indeed I’ve been quite happy to chat to him whenever we have met in the local pub or in the street. But now she wants to develop their friendship again to a deeper lever. She says, she has taken four years to get to this stage. Can they be just friends?

Choosing a mate that will stay forever!

Choosing a mate that will stay forever.   "We have arrived Houston".

Finally we have come to a place where couples are deciding they have a choice about their future and don't have to pray that their perfect soul mate will fall into their laps and whisk them off to "never never" land.  Choosing a mate, rather than hoping and praying someone will choose you for some requires adopting a new attitude.

The burden of knowing if this relationship will last forever and last forever happily is now much easier with pre-engagement counseling.  A current blog post, Pre-Engagement Counseling, A Way to Choose A Mate revels why churches in the south are now offering this upcoming method in choosing a mate.

Another revealing article, from the LA Times speaks clearly about the importance in knowing how deep the water is before you jump when choosing a mate for life.

What are your thoughts on choosing a mate for life?

Keeping Secrets-Good Idea or Not?

Should you be keeping secrets in your relationship? 

Ex- Lovers: Can't We Just Be Friends?

Have you found yourself asking an ex-lover after a breakup, "Why can't we just be friends?"  This was the topic on the Today Show this morning, the Weekend Edition. They had Dr. Patricia Farrell, psychologist, who has written  How to Be Your Own Therapist along with David Zincenko, editor and chief or Men's Magazine discussing this very issue.

Find out how males and females disagree on staying "just friends" after a breakup.

When Partner Trust is the Issue

Are you wondering if you can trust your partner?  Were you burnt badly before and not sure how to know if this partner is trustworthy?  Do you question if your partner is cheating on you? How do you know if you should hire a private investigator?

How Long to Date Before Marriage?

Fact or Falsehood: Couples should date at least two years before marriage.

How long should you date before marriage?

The biggest mistake couples make when seeking premarital advice!

The biggest mistake is all about timing. The best time for premarital advice is before you become engaged and make the announcement.

Are you questioning if you are making the right decision in getting married?